Why you need to be bad?
Actually, there is a very simple answer: this is big world and there are all types of people both good and bad. For the good people you can be good but you can't always be good with the bad one.
Recently there is a syndrome found named Nice guy Syndrome.
This is actually very self explanatory. There is a person who always pretends to be good to gain others approval.
They are also the ones who are too weak to fight for the things they want. They think society will give them what they want if they act good.
Just a parent give their children a reward for their good behaviors and punished them for bad behaviors.
But this child behaviors does not help the adult. You become adult by leaving your childish self behind towards maturity.
And the very important part of being an Adult is to be Assertive. You need to stand up for yourself.
You need to treat people for what they are. You need to leave some people of they are getting toxic for your own good.
You need to think about yourself and your people. You can't just pretend to be nice and think that by doing this you will get what you want like a child.
Take Responsibility:
The world is not like that. There is a very important advice, take responsibility for your life.
If you are overly nice then some people will take advantage of it. They can see that you are weak.
So, start small, it's ok to be bad sometimes as long as you aren't hurting anyone and just fighting for yourself.
From the next time, if you get a really bad food in a restaurant then tell it to the manager to replace it. You don't need to complain and complain.
Be Assertive and Proactive.
Being Assertive means to be able to stand up for yourself, asking for what you want, and exercising your will. Or, in simple terms being able to go for what you need, and want.
It can also means being able to give your opinion on a matter.
Being assertive will help you in all fields of life: relationship, career, personal, etc
Like: In relationship you will able to tell your person that there is some boundary you don't want to be broken, like seeing your journals or diary.
In Career, you can ask your boss for promotions, you can say that you need a holiday for this reasons. And also with your colleagues.
How to Be Assertive:
Being Assertive means to be able to stand up for yourself, asking for what you want, and exercising your will. Or, in simple terms being able to go for what you need, and want.
It can also means being able to give your opinion on a matter.
Being assertive will help you in all fields of life: relationship, career, personal, etc
Like: In relationship you will able to tell your person that there is some boundary you don't want to be broken, like seeing your journals or diary.
In Career, you can ask your boss for promotions, you can say that you need a holiday for this reasons. And also with your colleagues.
Steps:
- Say No: if you are someone who tells everyone 'yes ' in every thing, then you gotta change that. Habituate yourself to say 'No' first, and then analyze what he/she is offering.
- Exercise Will: Now, if you can say No, then you gotta learn to stay on your grounds where others tries to persuade you. Exercise your Will. Like: if you are studying for the next week important exam and some of your friends tries to make you hang out with them., then stay on your grounds. Keep Studying as it is important task now, keep saying 'No' to them.
- Be clear on What you Want: You should better know what is it that you want. If you don't then others will decide what you should want. And then it can be good for you and cannot be.
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